A victim feels the way victims feel. It is a personality trait that is acquired over time. It is an individual's response to what is done to them. Most times, the feeling of defeat begins with a thought and if not properly addressed, it can progress, deteriorate and lead to depression.
You often hear people with victim mentality say things like; Look what they did to me; It is not my fault; it's not just fair on me; life is simply difficult ......... The state of mind here is that of powerlessness, it's about being victim of circumstances and that of other peoples actions one we have no control over and can do nothing about.
People with victim mentality are generally passive with no resilience and usually very angry people. Always seeking attention and validation not taking positive action and responsibility.
Sometimes, the strongest people amongst us can feel defeated. Try the following if you are feeling like a victim.
- Change the way you view situations and circumstances. Your perception on life and people could be the root of your problem.
- Stop looking for validation and attention from all the wrong places.
- Take responsibility for your actions and make concious effort to become better.
- Accept that criticism is a part of life's growth process.
- Be proactive. This way, you are busy enough not to have time and energy to sulk over what someone did or said to you.
- Be more appreciative and grateful for where you are and how well you are doing.
- Pay no attention to negativity.
You are not a victim. You are a determiner and you have choices.
"Abandon the idea that you are the victim of the things that happened to you. Choose to be a victor" - Seth Adam Smith
Sharonxxx
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